Becoming an Ally: Being an Engaged Bystander
The 5 D’s
The five D’s are a tool to help you remember what to do when you witness harassment:
Detect: Recognize all forms of harassment, violence, and other forms of harm
Direct: Intervene in a direct and immediate way by stepping in.
Distract: Redirect/interrupt to remove focus from the affected party.
Delegate: Get help from someone else.
Delay: Follow-up with the affected person or relevant people after the fact.
DESC Communication Tool
Say what you observe.
Describe the other person’s actions and behaviour.
Express how their actions and behaviour is impacting you,
Use feeling words.
Be specific about what change you need from them.
Clarify benefits of the change – Find common ground.
“Then we can…” or “How do you feel about that?”
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