Being an Ally

An ally uses their position of safety to advocate for 2SLGBTQ+ people. This can look lots of different ways but is generally an ongoing process. We like to say that being an ally isn’t about the title but your actions.

• Listen
• Be open-minded
• Be willing to talk
• Do your research
• Don’t assume that everyone you know or meet is straight
• Don’t assume that everyone you know or meet is cisgender
• Speak up to your teacher, principal or boss if you notice things in your school or workspace that may cause harm to 2SLGBTQ+ individuals
• It can be easy to get angry at people who make homophobic and transphobic jokes, but approaching these moments with kindness and compassion can better help the other person on their journey of learning how to respect 2SLGBTQ+ identities.
• Don’t give up. Sometimes you will have to have the same conversation several different ways. Eventually, it makes a difference.
• Know that when someone comes out to you, it means they trust you a lot.
• Talk about 2SLGBTQ+ identities and issues openly and often.
• Don’t assume how someone who has experienced harm or violence wants to be supported. Talk to them to find out what would be helpful for them in that moment.

When someone comes out, it can feel very important but also scary for them. If someone is sharing this part of themselves with you, it means they trust you. Here are some things you can say if someone comes out to you:

• “I’m glad you told me”
• “Thank you for trusting me enough to tell me”
• “I love you”
• “I support you no matter what”
• “What kind of support do you need from me?”

Listening to someone who has come out to you, mirroring the language they use for themselves and focusing on what they need from you are great ways to show respect and care.